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7 Money Conversations You Should Have When You’re In a Relationship

7 Money Conversations You Should Have When You’re In a Relationship

Money Management
SouthEast Bank| July 27, 2021
7 Money Conversations You Should Have When You’re In a Relationship

You spend too much money on video games. 

Your partner didn’t tell you about their credit card debt and student loans. 

You want to go on vacation; your partner wants to buy a new car. 

Sound familiar? Disagreements between romantic partners are often about finances. In fact, according to a 2018 survey, 44% of married couples said that they had argued about money within the year.

Worrying and arguing about money can be stressful, strain your relationship, and even cause resentment, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can prevent that tension from developing by having open and candid conversations with each other. 

 

Why Are Money Conversations Important?

Sitting down and crunching numbers with your partner may not sound like an exciting way to spend an evening. But it can be an excellent way to bond, compromise, and work together to accomplish your goals. 

Whether you just moved in together or have been married for years, here are seven money conversations you should have with your partner: 

 

1. Existing debt

Before you can create a financial plan or roadmap for your future, you have to figure out your current situation. With your partner, discuss all of that debt that you have. Include debt that you incurred together as a couple and any debt you may have from before you got together. 

Many couples are unaware of just how much debt they have. If that’s the case for you, you and your partner can look up your credit reports for free at AnnualCreditReport.com. Your credit reports will list all of the credit cards, student loans, car loans, and medical debt that’s under your names. 

 

2. Splitting bills and accounts

Every couple manages their expenses differently. Some people opt for joint accounts, while others keep separate checking accounts or savings accounts. If you split your bills, you might decide that the bills are divided equally, regardless of your incomes. Or, you may decide to divide the bills proportionally based on your salaries. 

There’s no one right way to manage your finances as a couple. However, talking frankly about how you want to handle your money and bills can avoid surprises and hurt feelings later on. 

If you do choose to combine your accounts, be sure to work with a reputable bank. You can even take your planning a step further by getting to know your local banker, so they can help support your financial goals.

 

3. Spending money

When you develop a monthly budget, it’s a good idea to set aside some money for extras. You can use the money allocated for your personal spending on non-essential purchases like shoes, games, or a night out with friends. 

Deciding how much you each have for non-essentials can help rein in excess spending. By knowing exactly how much you can spend each month, you can budget accordingly and avoid any fights about wasting cash on unnecessary things. 

 

4. Expectations for children

Whether or not you decide to have children is a huge decision. How you’ll handle money with children is an important discussion to have, too. 

If you have children or want to have children later on, make sure you discuss your expectations with your partner. Here are some questions to ask your significant other: 

 

5. Financial priorities

When talking about money with your partner, make sure your priorities align. Homeownership, travel, paying off debt — they’re all potential priorities that can conflict with one another, so work together to see which goal you should focus on first. 

 

6. Retirement goals

While many people assume they’ll continue working well into their 60’s before they retire, more and more people are striving for early retirement. If that’s a focus for you and your partner, talk about what age you’d like to retire, what you want your retirement to look like, and what sacrifices you need to make now to accomplish those goals. 

For example, you may need to open and contribute to individual retirement accounts (IRAs) in addition to an employer-sponsored retirement plan to have enough money saved for your retirement, which could mean that you have to reduce your spending in other areas. 

 

7. Emergency plans

While it may sound morbid, discussing your plans and desires if an emergency happens is critical. For example:

A Few More Topics to Consider

If you haven’t discussed these subjects before, make sure you cover the following topics: 

 

Managing your money

When you’re in a relationship, money can cause a lot of stress and arguments. However, open and regular communication can prevent that from happening and keeps you working together as a team. Set up regular dates to review your spending and budgets, discuss your goals, and talk about how you want to handle your money so that you’re always on the same page. 


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